goodbye to bailey

Saturday, July 26:  Last night, a day after my mother-in-law’s memorial service, Mike and I were watching the French movie, Delicacy, when suddenly we heard Bailey, our 12 1/2 year-old Border Collie, get sick.  Mike said Bailey had been more lethargic than normal on his evening walk, but at his age, 88 in human years, that was not so abnormal.

Bailey in a blizzard in 2010
Bailey in a blizzard in 2010

Later in the night, Adam and his friends were hanging out in the basement.  Adam told us in the morning that Bailey had thrown up about four times.  Each time, Adam gave him water, which Bailey drank right up.  Then he’d throw up again.

Bailey in our kitchen
Bailey in our kitchen

On Saturday morning, we found Bailey lying in the basement sewing room, far removed from all the activity, his heart beating rapidly and his chest heaving as he tried to breathe.  He looked scared and wouldn’t move.  Alex picked him up and carried him to the van, and Mike and the boys took him immediately to the vet.  The only thing we could think of was that he had eaten something out of the compost pile yesterday that might have made him sick.  Mike and the boys stayed with him a while, but the vet recommended they go home as he said it would take some time for a diagnosis.  They left him with the vet, who took x-rays and found some kind of mass in his chest.  Blood work showed his blood wasn’t clotting.  Before any final determination could be made, the vet phoned to say Bailey was declining, and he recommended putting him down.  We all jumped in the van as quickly as possible, but before we got out of the neighborhood, the vet called.  Bailey had died.

Adam and Bailey ~ brotherly love
Adam and Bailey ~ brotherly love
Alex and Bailey at Great Falls in winter 2013
Alex and Bailey at Great Falls in winter 2013

We were so sad not to have been by his side, as he was a dear member of our family.  All we could hope was that he wasn’t too scared all by himself in his last moments.

Mike and Bailey in front of his mother's house
Mike and Bailey in front of his mother’s house

Sometimes it seems bad things happen in groups.  I say they happen in threes, Mike says in twos.  He remembered how his father died of a sudden heart attack in 1999, a couple of days after Mike fell off a ladder and broke his arm. This time, my mother-in-law, Shirley, was admitted to the hospital on June 30 with a bad cough and pneumonia and released to go home under hospice care two days after her 88th birthday on July 1.  She died on Thursday, July 17.  We had her memorial service on Thursday, July 24.  And then Bailey died two days later at the human age of 88 (12 1/2 in dog years).

Somehow, I can’t help but think there is a connection between Shirley’s death and Bailey’s.  Shirley loved Bailey as if he were her own dog.  When she came home from the hospital, she mysteriously had a soft golden teddy bear which we’d never seen before.  She said someone from her Garden Club had given it to her.  She called it Bailey and kept it by her side in her last weeks.  In those last weeks, she also asked Mike several times to bring the real Bailey by to see her, which he did.  She was always happy to see him.

Shirley and Bailey
Shirley and Bailey

Did Bailey sense that Shirley needed a companion in her death?  Was it just coincidence?  They were both 88.  Shirley had that bear named Bailey that never left her side.  Maybe 88 is just a good age to go.

Bailey at the Virginia Arboretum
Bailey at the Virginia Arboretum

The vet told us we could take Bailey home to bury him in our yard.  We have a corner garden, and Adam wanted to bury him there and plant a fig tree over him.  Bailey ruled that corner of our yard.  It was probably annoying to many people, but whenever anyone walked by our yard, Bailey ran up and down the property line barking at them.  Most people knew he was harmless, but I think he might have made some people a little nervous.

Mike and the boys dug a 5-foot-deep hole in the garden, which took them several hours in the hot sun.  It was a grueling effort, and I kept them supplied with ice water.  We put Bailey’s body in the hole with Shirley’s teddy bear, Bailey’s favorite squeaky football, and some of the flowers from Shirley’s funeral.

Our corner garden where Bailey will watch over our yard forever more
Our corner garden where Bailey will watch over our yard forever more

Later in the evening, Mike’s sister Barbara came over, we all went out to dinner at East West Vietnamese restaurant and made a toast to Bailey.  Then we came home and had a little ceremony over Bailey’s grave and fig tree, where we tossed all the flowers from Shirley’s funeral over his grave.  We felt overwhelmed with sadness.

The fig tree over Bailey's grave
The fig tree over Bailey’s grave

As a Border Collie, Bailey was a heart a sheep-herder and an alpha male. He liked to round up smaller dogs and he liked to be in charge.  He liked to rule his territory.  But he was a scaredy-dog at heart.  If another dog challenged him, he’d go cowering into a corner.

Bailey's grave in our front garden
Bailey’s grave in our front garden

Tools made him bonkers.  He went ballistic whenever we used the vacuum cleaner.  He would attack a broom with his teeth bared.  Whenever we brought out the blender or a corkscrew, or our onion chopper, he could hear from another room that we were going to use them, and he’d come in barking, upset that anyone would dare use tools such as these in his presence.  We finally trained him to sit while we used those tools, but he’d whine the whole time.

We use a tool when we put a rubber cork into open wine bottles;  that tool suctions the air out of the bottle and seals it.  No matter how quietly I tried to do that task, I’d hear the pitter-patter of Bailey’s toenails on the wood floors as he skittered into the kitchen to bark or whine.

It seems awfully quiet around here now.

He loved to hang out with the boys, with me, or with Mike, as we sat reading or working or doing an outdoor task.  When Mike took him on his evening walks, he’d sniff the pee-mail left by every dog in the neighborhood, and he’d send secret messages back. He obviously had an active social life.

Bailey and his ball
Bailey and his ball

We’ll miss his quirky personality and his presence in our family. But I hope he’s now keeping Shirley company in a happier place.

24 thoughts on “goodbye to bailey

  1. Lucky dog to have his own fig tree! 🙂 I love the snowy photo of him, Cathy.
    88 will be more than enough for me. There comes a time, don’t you think? He had a good life and loving owners. Hugs to you all!

    1. Thanks for your hugs, Jo. Both of them did live good long lives and we were lucky to share their journeys on earth. And Bailey is very lucky to have that fig tree!

      I remember when I was in India, my friend and I saw two different gurus. Both of them told me I’d live till 88, and I said to my friend, “Oh no! I don’t want to live till 88!” Only if I’m in good health and can get out and about by myself easily. Once I’m confined, I may as well be gone!

      However, it did give us a sense of peace to keep in mind the gurus’ words while we drove on India’s harrowing roads with only one seatbelt in the car, which we took turns wearing. I kept telling myself not to worry because “the guru told me I’d live till 88!”

    1. Yes, Carol, they really are part of the family, and it was hard to say goodbye, especially so suddenly and after we were already reeling from Shirley’s death. I believe he is keeping Shirley company. xxx

  2. I love how you used your blog to remember Bailey. We lost our precious little Genie four years ago and we still miss her sorely. Your family was fortunate to have Bailey’s companionship 12.5 years. RIP, Bailey.

  3. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss and I believe Bailey and Shirley are once again together. Every time you pick a fig from that tree, what a lovely reminder you will have of a wonderful friend and family member.

    1. Thank you so much for your condolences, LuAnn. I believe they’re together too. We already shared one huge ripe fig from that little tree, and we’ll remember Bailey every time we taste one of those luscious fruits. xx

  4. Just read this heartbreaking post. What a beautiful send off, but I am also very sad that he did not see your faces before he left this life. For sure Shirley was there waiting for him, I believe this very much. Who says animals don’t go to heaven? They deserve to go there much more than we humans do in many cases. I am so sorry for your loss, for the loss to your family, and I thank you for sharing this. I was not going to read it as I knew I would cry because I so enjoyed seeing Bailey pop up in your blogs and your photos (of course I am crying now) but I knew if anyone could put such a terrible loss into gentle words, it would be you. God bless you and thank you. xxxx

    1. Thanks for your kind thoughts, Mona Lisa. It was really sad to us that we weren’t there with him when he died. Poor guy, he was probably so scared. I believe Shirley was there waiting for him too. It was a sad July all around for us. Hugs xxx

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